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Women, I think, use this principle the best. They use validation for everything, from statements like," honey does this make my but look big" to uneasy stares looking for affirmation from her peers about how she thinks Spencer from the Hills is hot. I rarely if ever have seen a women making solitary decision (not saying that it hasn't happened).
Now that I am aware of this I have been noticing some pretty startling things when it comes to how women validate men. Some may be obvious, but I still think it is info (for men) worth knowing:
- Women need to know that you are good looking- meaning that other women need to tell her that you are good looking. You could be the prettiest man in the world and hung like christmas lights. If the girl you are interested in has friends that don't think you look good, don't even bother trying to talk to her.
- You are only as good looking as the girl you are already with- meaning you are sometimes evaluated based on the types of girls you hang out with. As a caveat to that, men will find that they get more attention from random -and not so random- females when they have a girlfriend than when they are single. Why? Because the man is now being validated by the girl he is with. If the girlfriend is good looking, the man will most likely draw the attention of other good looking girls, even if he looks like sloth from the Goonies.
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- If no one is there to validate you, you have 30 seconds to state your case- If a female is attracted to you and there is no one there to evaluate her decision, she will entertain your queries for 30 seconds, tops, with extensions as the conversation builds. Hope and pray the you says the right things. Leaning on your Ferrari as you're speaking to her would help as well.
- Make sure you are her daddy, or nothing like him- If her daddy was a great man (validation) and you remind her of that, as a man you are her representative of security. And I think women love security more than they love money. If daddy was a dead beat and you remind her of him, you may get some initial play, but eventually she'll sniff you out and your out of there.
I am putting these finding to the test now. I hope It turns out well. I hope I don't get more than three drinks thrown in my face this week if my findings are incorrect and I hope this is helpful to someone.
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